Purging of the poisonous people

Screen Shot 2016-08-15 at 2.43.16 PMLife is filled with handfuls of wonderful people. But it also cannot be ignored that there are plenty of Debby-Downers in day-to-day life. Sometimes people are just chronically negative, having a bad day or taking out a personal problem on you. Needless to say, this can ruin a work day, or any day really. We all probably have in mind that one person who constantly picks on our work or can barely spare a compliment when you do happen to do a good job. Usually, I try to ignore the negativity, but it can build up into a pessimistic mountain at times. So recently I’ve taken on the task of separating myself from the people who have just proven to be toxic in my life.

No, I’m not saying rid yourself from every single person who has hurt your feelings ever. You would be one lonely loner, that’s for sure. In life, we all have to remember that we are just human. We cannot be perfect and we cannot expect others to be perfect either. But we also cannot ignore self-care by letting Negative-Nancys take advantage of us. And we can’t let Meany-Mike strip us of our self-esteem on a regular basis. What I mean to say is that if there are people in your life that you are constantly putting yourself out for, relying on or covering for and they just keep using you like that, move on.

Ah, those scary words. Move on. Certainly not an easy thing to do and certainly not one of my favorite things to do either. I always find myself worrying about things like, “Oh, what if they change and see how much I do for them?” or “Maybe they just need a positive influence in their lives like me.” Forget it, man. Letting someone who does not have his or her own self-esteem worked out steel-roll you for all of your I-love-myself points is not fair to you! I fell into this trap of trying to be the bigger person by staying close friends with some people who were quite rude to me on a regular basis and would constantly use me for whatever I had to offer at the time. Not a fun gig. Not a real friendship.

And I know, you might be thinking that God says we should love our enemies. This is true. But He never said let them take advantage of you and toss you around for whatever they want or need. We can go out of our way, as Christians (and frankly as decent human beings) and help our neighbors, whether we like them or not. We should also, though, stand up for ourselves and the precious person that we were created as.

So if there are bullies getting you down, just step away. It is way more possible than you think. I’ve done it, my mother has done it with her friends and my dad has done it with his job. They seem much happier to me. And I can assure you that I’ve never felt better or stronger myself. Like I said, there are tons of fantastic people in the world. Go out there and surround yourself with great influences, others who lift each other up and friends who will always have your back. You deserve it. No one needs the little guys picking on you, and soon enough, they too will realize it themselves.

1 Response to “Purging of the poisonous people”


  1. 1 Angela Povolo August 16, 2016 at 4:07 pm

    Amen!


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